The Her World team takes a page out of Sarah Knight’s book, The Life-changing Magic of Not Giving a F***, and… let’s just say we’re happier all around!
The Her World team takes a page out of Sarah Knight’s book, The Life-changing Magic of Not Giving a F***, and… let’s just say we’re happier all around!
“I’ve stopped caring about the fact that most of my friends are getting hitched while I’m still single! I’ve deleted my Tinder account and now, I spend more time doing things to better myself and upgrade my own skills: I read a new book every week, and I’ve signed up to learn a new language. These days, I feel so much more confident and less worried about my single status.” – Jaclyn Gunasilan, associate beauty editor.
“I used to be really bad at turning down social appointments – even though I knew that dinner at a posh restaurant followed by cocktails was going to burn a hole in my pocket. I didn’t want to be the spoilsport who would go ‘Um, how about a $10 zichar meal…?’. But now that I’m saving up for a house, I’m more direct about telling my pals I’m on a shoestring budget. Surprisingly, that’s also their cue to sheepishly admit that they ought to be spending less too! Everyone’s happy, and zichar’s great anyway, so it’s a win-win all round.” – Jeanne Tai, associate deputy editor.
“I’m cool with people calling me a workaholic these days. I am of the opinion that good things come to those who work smart – and work hard. I’m blessed in the sense that I actually like what I do for a living, so if I stay back in the office until 10pm because I want my words to skip across the screen like pebbles across a stream, then so be it – it’s shiok, and it gratifies me on an artistic level. That’s putting myself first, in a way.” – Eugene Quek, associate editor of www.herworldplus.com.
“I used to care a lot about other people liking me – even the people I really didn’t like myself! However, thanks to age and the advice of my psychologist friends, I’ve learnt that some people are just cruel for no reason, and their behaviour is usually down to deeper personal issues they have inside themselves (like insecurity and unhappiness). Today, if I get negative vibes from someone, I am more likely to feel compassion for the person. Besides, I really have enough friends anyway!” – Jo Upcraft, former deputy editor.
“It’s unfortunate, but I used to not call out my guy friends for making horrible sexist remarks, for fear of being branded as ‘one of those feminists who can’t take a joke’. I’ve long stopped being bothered about what they think because 1) I’d rather be labelled as such than contribute to the sexist narrative and 2) if they can’t respect women enough to hear me out, then it’d probably be in my best interests to not be friends with them. Luckily, they’ve mostly been receptive, and some have even agreed that they were being sexist and should stop.” – Tan Min Yan, lifestyle editor.
