In which we ask three men to get candid on a very hot topic.
Raiz Razak, 29
“It doesn’t matter how long you had been with your ex or who broke up with who; when you first find out your friend is dating your ex, it will feel like a stab in the back. I don’t think I’d be too bothered, though. A slight awkwardness during get-togethers is guaranteed and there will be certain things you and your friend won’t talk about. But at the end of the day, I already have the best partner in the world, so I can’t complain.”
Peter Ang Nielsen, 23
“No – especially if he’s my best friend because that would mean we’d all be seeing each other around. And bumping into an ex can be like walking in front of a train (I’m speaking from experience here). If my friend chooses to be with my ex, out of all the girls he could have dated, that means he’d wanted to be with her all along. It would be so sad and disappointing, because it means my friend didn’t take my feelings into consideration, and maybe he didn’t deserve my friendship in the first place.”
“Not cool at all. If he’s my friend, he would have hung out with me and my ex, when we were still dating. I’d start to wonder if they had a thing going on even before we had broken up. If it happened right after our breakup, I’d be, like, ‘go and date for all I care, but I don’t want to hear anything about it’. But if it happens years after, I’d be, like, ‘well, the world is small and I cherish your friendship, so you have my blessings’ – but I’m still going to freak out for a bit. I’ll be at the wedding but you ain’t gonna get an ang pao from me!”
Text Compiled By Sophie Hong.