My husband and I often argue because his idea of a nice night is staying in, watching TV and spending time together, while I really enjoy going out. This recently turned into a big fight when I got fed-up with him and went out with friends instead. I don’t want this to become a sticking point in our relationship. How do I get him to compromise ?
I won’t lie to you, that is every guy’s idea of a nice night. Every. Single. Guy. But it doesn’t mean we can’t compromise. When he goes out with his friends, where do they go? Let him pick the place the next time you suggest a night out. Tell him there’ll be time to stay home and watch TV when he’s geriatric, but while his legs are still working, having a night out is a rare pleasure. If that fails, just turn oﬀ his PS4. That should get him out of the house.
I met this guy through a dating app, and we’ve just started going out. His text messages are always fun, flirty, and a little sexually charged. But he’s completely diﬀerent when we meet in person – more reserved, and at times, I almost feel like he’s friendzoned me. It’s confusing. Should I call him out on it ?
Of course you should! Give it to him straight up. That will challenge him to completely take you out of the friendzone, which should be fun. Bear in mind, though, that he might just be sending you normal messages, and you’re imposing what you want to see on them.
My boyfriend mentioned that his ex was really spontaneous and was the one who would initiate sex. I’m more passive, and his comment really bothered me. Should I try to take the lead, even if it’s not something I’m comfortable with? Or tell him to back oﬀ ?
A comment about his ex’s sexual prowess? You’d have to be dead not to be bothered. You definitely shouldn’t tell him to back oﬀ, and it’s you who should (get) back on. You need to get out there and initiate some sexual activity. Luckily, initiating sex with a man doesn’t take much. I figure walking up to him in some lingerie and giving him a little wink should be enough. I think you can handle that.