Ever been blindsided by a breakup? Imagine this: girl meets boy, sparks fly, and happily ever is in sight... And then he suddenly pulls a 180 and cuts things off, seemingly without rhyme or reason. If that’s ever happened to you before, you might be interested in reading on...
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We’re all familiar with whirlwind romances, whether we’ve seen them in the movies or experienced them ourselves. But what causes them to crash and burn? Three men weigh in on why they ended their relationships in 10 dates or less.
“I met Charlene through mutual friends. We hit it off right away; I thought she was hilarious, with a dirty sense of humour that definitely appealed to me, so I asked her out. Things seemed to be headed in the right direction, but that changed after we met up with our friends after just two weeks of dating.
Our friends were teasing us about whether we’d slept together yet (we had), when Charlene casually mentioned her favourite position and that she thought it was ‘cute’ that I hadn’t tried it before
She then proceeded to talk about how kinky she liked to be in bed, almost as if she was showing off. I hoped she was just joking around, but when she started going into detail about things she had done with me and other boys, she definitely crossed the line. I’m a private person, so it made me really uncomfortable and annoyed.
I called her the day after to dump her, which I know isn’t chivalrous at all, but I felt like she didn’t respect me by publicising our sex life to our friends.
I kept it vague by telling her that I didn’t think we communicated well and that things weren’t going to work out.”
In the rom-com How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, Kate Hudson plays a magazine writer who tries to get a guy whom she had just started dating to dump her.
“I went to the UK for an exchange programme two years ago and met Anne. We tried to keep it casual as we both knew I had to return to Singapore at the end of the month, but I saw her almost every day for three weeks and it felt like we were in this bubble. I told her I loved her a week into our relationship and I genuinely meant it.
I had a girl at home, though – one I admittedly neglected while on exchange. Sarah and I have been dating since secondary school but things felt so routine between us, it was nothing like the chemistry I had with Anne. Ultimately, I ended things with Anne at the end of the month and stayed with Sarah. As much as I wanted a change, I was also scared of rocking the boat; there would have been so much collateral damage if I had broken up with her. Our families knew each other well, and my family adored her – I would never hear the end of it if I ended things.
Life with Sarah wouldn’t be exciting, but it would be stable and easy, and I guess at that moment, I valued that over my chemistry with Anne. It has been two years since my ‘exchange fling’ and I know I made the wrong decision. We still have each other on Instagram and she recently got a new boyfriend. It kills me each time I see a photo of them together.”
“I met April at a club a few months back. She was my type of girl – she worked hard, partied harder and had a good sense of humour. We started talking at the bar then went home together that night. She ended up sleeping over for the next five nights.
For the entire month we dated, she acted like the perfect ‘cool’ girlfriend. She encouraged me to hang with my friends and never tried to pressure me into buying things for her. Then she started acting like we were in a serious relationship, which I didn’t like, but didn’t read too much into. She referred to me as her ‘boyfriend’, when I still thought things were casual and would ask a lot of questions about my female friends.
Things started going really downhill when I got home late one night and found her in my bedroom going through my stuff! Apparently, she convinced my roommate to let her into the house. She said when I hadn’t answered her messages all day, she thought I had dumped her. I hadn’t and I was actually just busy, but I definitely dumped her right there on the spot.
That was the last time I saw or talked to her, so I don’t actually know why she decided to go through my things. My best guess is she was looking for evidence that I was seeing other girls, which wasn’t the case.”
“It has been two years since my ‘exchange fling’ and I know I made the wrong decision in choosing my girlfriend.”
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