In which we ask three men to get candid on a very hot topic.
In which we ask three men to get candid on a very hot topic.
“Most guys are shy. I hardly make the first move, or any move at all. Just tell me you want to take me out, and tell me the time and place. If we’re strangers who just met, just talk to me and get to know me. I’ll be more than happy to chat with you for a bit, and maybe that will culminate in date plans. You know what, I dare you to use a pick-up line. If you make a guy laugh, you have his attention. Here are a couple: “do you have Wi-Fi, because I can feel a connection” and “can I have your picture so I can show Santa what I want for Christmas?” If these don’t work, he doesn’t have a very good sense of humour and you’re better off without him.”
“I’ll let you in on a secret: most men are genetically engineered to be absolutely clueless when a girl is interested in them. You’ll most likely hear them say: ‘you don’t tell me, how I know?’ Just ask him out – if it works, great; if it doesn’t and you lose whatever you guys had, he isn’t mature enough to be in your life. Look, if you’re interested in this man, chances are, you’re not the only one. So unless you wish to remain a friend who he calls up for supper at 2am, please do something. If you’re shy, use a special occasion to create an opportunity. For example, find out when his birthday is and ask him out during that period – ideally, the weekend before, instead of the actual day. And here’s another thing to know: if he isn’t available on the date you suggested, he’ll counter-offer with some alternatives if he’s into you.”
“As someone who has many guy friends and frequently asks them to hang out, I’d like to think I’m an authority on this topic. If you already know him, find out what his interests are and plan something around that. Keep it casual by making it a social event, inviting both parties’ friends but interacting closely with him throughout. If you prefer to have him all to yourself, invite him to something aligned with his interests under the pretext of trying to learn something new. That way, it’s casual enough where he’ll feel more comfortable being in his element, and he’ll also feel more of a bond with you because it’s a shared experience. If there’s chemistry, great. If not, then you should barium and lament that all the good guys argon.”
