Work. Sex. Love. Family. We asked you, “What do you want?” Here are your answers, and more.
Work. Sex. Love. Family. We asked you, “What do you want?” Here are your answers, and more.
Question: Do you know what you want in life? Answer: Yes, no, maybe? For most of us, our twenties is a time spent figuring out “Life’s Big Questions”: What am I looking for in a partner? What do I like about myself? How much should I listen to my parents? The truth is, we can’t give you the answers.
But we did survey our readers across five key areas – from sex and love, to family and friendships, work and confidence – hoping to share what other women like you are thinking. And, hey, maybe you’ll pick up some pointers, or there’s the chance you’ll just find out you aren’t alone in your search for “Life’s Big Answers”.
A Thing Called Love
When it comes to love, your wants aren’t too unexpected, but there are a few twists. Sense of humour still ranks as the number one thing women look out for. But surprisingly, respecting women comes in second place. A sign that our cover girl Emma Watson’s pro-feminist stance is taking hold, perhaps?
Love at First Sight!
Romantics, rejoice! Researchers from Syracuse University found that throughout the first year of love, the blood levels of Nerve Growth Factor – a protein that plays an important part in our social biology – were significantly increased. According to Doctor Stephanie Ortigue, “These results confirm love has a scientific basis.” Take that, skeptics.
Sexy And You Know It
The good news is that the modern approach to sex is kind of like the modern approach to love – it’s all about fairness. Which is why most of you say sex is initiated equally by you and your partner, instead of waiting for him to make the first move all the time.
The notso- good news is that, actually, when it comes to sex, it turns out there’s a lot you don’t know. Like, 13 percent of you don’t know what an orgasm feels like. But luckily, we found out that there’s so much more to the clitoris than meets the eye. And the best news of all? Learning is where all the fun is.
7 out of 10 women say sex is initiated equally by them and their partner.
Pink Dot
It may be hard to spot, but the all-important clitoris is actually so much more than that little “button”. In fact, most of it is inside the body.
+Think of it as a swan with the visible part as the “beak”. That part becomes a longer “neck” that’s about the size of the first joint of your thumb, which then flares out into two “wings” (the proper name is “crura”) that extend backwards into this pubic region.
+On average, each crura is about 7.5 to 8.9 cm in length. That’s this long!
The Daily Grind
Sadly, unlike Kesha, most of us don’t “wake up in the morning feeling like P Diddy”. In fact, we feel quite the opposite – groggy, unsure of ourselves, because maybe we’ve picked the wrong outfit, and, oh, now that we’ve changed for the third time, we’re late for work. Great. How we see our work and how we see ourselves can have a big impact on our lives and the choices we make. Here’s what you had to say about them.
59% of the women surveyed said they faced discrimination at work.
44% of respondents agreed that they do not have the opportunity to perform their best at work.
Discrimination comes in many forms:
GENDER EDUCATION EXPERIENCE APPEARANCE SOCIAL STATUS
While the Ministry of Manpower has encouraged “fair employment practices” based on merit and nondiscrimination, there are no laws that enforce it.
Love in a Hope less Place?
14% of the women surveyed will pursue an office romance.
Dating a co-worker is a sensitive issue. Most employers don’t encourage an office romance for fear that it would serve as a distraction and affect performance and impartiality.
Do you see your colleagues as friends?
YES 76% On average, a typical Singaporean spends at least seven hours with her workmates. That’s more than half of your waking hours! of the women surveyed will pursue an office romance.
You, Me, And Everyone We Know
So much of life is built on the relationships we have – not just with that “special someone”, but with our family and our friends. What was your take on that? Well, for one, honesty isn’t necessarily the best policy...
Squad Goals
In the words of Stieg Larsson, author of The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo: “Friendship – my definition – is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don’t have trust, the friendship will crumble.”
All In The Family
When it comes to family, it seems millennials like you are all about doing things differently than the older generation. From the number of kids in the family to making life decisions, you certainly aren’t content to simply follow in the footsteps of those who’ve gone before you. Instead, you choose to make your own path.
