What men really wish we knew about sex

It’s not just us who have “special requirements” in the bedroom (and we don’t mean thread count). Six guys reveal their between-the-sheetssecrets. By Lucy Cleeve.

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It’s not just us who have “special requirements” in the bedroom (and we don’t mean thread count). Six guys reveal their between-the-sheetssecrets. By Lucy Cleeve.

Photos corbis & 123rf.com
Photos corbis & 123rf.com

Give me more foreplay, please

likes lots of touching and foreplay first, but so do I. I’d like to tell her I want her to nibble my ears and tickle my stomach before she heads straight to the obvious. Not all guys want just that.” – Wei Jun, 33, architect

Tell me I’m great

“When I hear ‘WOW that feels so good’ or ‘YES, keep touching me there’, I feel amazing. I like it when my wife tells me what she likes, then gives me lots of praise for it. That makes me feel like a total sex superhero!” – Bryan, 38, property developer

I have body issues too

“Women don’t own body insecurities – loads of men I know worry about their shapes as well. My arms are way too skinny, and I don’t have a six-pack like those guys in the movies that my partner is mad about. Sometimes it can make me feel really down, but I have to be the man – and be confident in the bedroom – which can sometimes be tough.” – Laveen, 35, financial services provider

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Sometimes a beer will do

“My job is so full-on and my wife is really understanding, but she thinks the best way to relax me is with her mouth. Don’t get me wrong – sex is the best, but sometimes it isn’t the answer. Watching football while cuddling a beer and my woman can be a great de-stressor, too.” – Eric, 34, social-media analyst

I won’t go down on you

“This might make me really unpopular, but I don’t enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. It’s nothing against you, but I’ve done it a few times before, and I just don’t get off on it, which in turn means my partner doesn’t get off on it. People may think I’m sefish, or I don’t know how to do it well, but it’s just not for me. And no, I don’t expect my other half to go down on me.” – Kelvyn, 34, writer

Can I get a quickie?

“My wife is a total babe in the bedroom – I’m a very lucky man! She plans these incredibly sexy, all-night sessions with candles, massage oils, lingerie and even toys. I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but sometimes I wish we could keep things simple and just ravish each other, without all the ‘romance’ and tricks.” – Vish, 29, IT manager

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