Silence Your Inner Critic

Too hard on yourself? Follow these simple tips to help curb self-criticism

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Too hard on yourself? Follow these simple tips to help curb self-criticism
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Write yourself a letter

If you’re angry at yourself over a mistake you’ve committed, write to yourself as you would a friend who has made the same error, using words of comfort.This will help stop you blowing things out of proportion.

Replace criticism with empathy

When faced with a challenge, compassionate self-talk can help you feel calmer. Repeat the phrase, ‘May I be kind to myself and give myself the compassion I need.’

Start a gratitude list

Write down five things you’re grateful for every day. For an extra boost of self-compassion with a long-lasting effect, list five things you’re proud of or five positive qualities that you see in yourself.

Switch To Classical

According to a study published in the Journal of Behavioural Medicine, people who struggle with poor sleep should listen to 45 minutes of relaxing classical music before bed. Doing so will help improve their quality of slumber in just three weeks.

Say “We”, Not “Me”

Want a happier, more relaxed relationship with your husband? Choose your words more carefully. The University of California (Berkeley) researchers found that “connected” couples tend to use plural pronouns like “we”, “us” and “ours”, and rather than singular pronouns such as “I”, “me” and “mine”. As a result, they were less likely to feel stressed out after the disagreement than couples who used singular pronouns.

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