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My single girlfriends and I are planning a holiday to Bali, which will include a lot of partying. My boyfriend is unhappy and feels insecure about me going. I do not appreciate the lack of trust he has in me! How should I handle this?

By drinking as much as possible and dancing on top of something while in Bali and then returning, happy to be back with him. Seriously, go dance on a table. It’s completely understandable that if you’re out with the girls on a tropical island, he’s worried about what could happen. That said, he needs to trust you and let you go do your own thing. Just remember that when it’s time for him to get debauched with his buddies, you have to be ready to let him go too.

My husband objectives me too much, which makes me uncomfortable. He talks explicitly about how hot he thinks I am in front our friends, and says that this is his way of showing love. Any advice?

At least he’s not slapping your butt, or clapping your breasts together. But honestly, he probably really feels like this is how he’s showing how much he loves you to everyone else. Unless he’s naming body parts, you can probably ask him to tone it down a little bit but still let him know that you appreciate that he cares. In his own explicit way.

My husband lost his job and now earns a fraction of his former salary. He does not like the idea that he is earning less than me and I feel that it is affecting his self-confidence. What should I do?

Any guy is going to have confidence issues after losing a better paying job, and having your wife make more can hurt a little, I suppose (though I would be totally fine with it. So fine with it, I’d be resting comfortably on the couch most of the time). Let him know that a salary doesn’t define anyone’s self-worth. Does he have any other passions? Get him working on those for a bit, like writing the great Singapore novel. Too often, people think money is a measure of how good you are in life. Show him that’s not the case.

I’ve been seeing a guy for some months. Recently, my friend found his profile on Tinder. I did ask him previously if he was seeing or speaking to other girls, but he said that he wasn’t. Is it possible that guys may use dating apps from time to time but still remain emotionally faithful?

As much as I’d like to tell you yes, and that you shouldn’t worry about it and that all guys should be on dating apps meeting other girls while they’re dating someone, I can’t. It’s not a good sign that he’s out there talking to other girls and testing the waters while he’s seeing you. Using a dating app probably means the guy isn’t ready to stop hunting for mates. You may want to move on to someone who isn’t Tindering around.