Why embrace your kid’s Dumbo ears when you can have them reshaped to look “normal”? Parents tell EVELINE GAN why they corrected their babies’ ear irregularities.


Why embrace your kid’s Dumbo ears when you can have them reshaped to look “normal”? Parents tell EVELINE GAN why they corrected their babies’ ear irregularities.

Some parents choose to put their children under the knife for various reasons, among them the fear of bullying and concerns about poor self-esteem.
The nip/tuck option
For babies who miss the golden window of opportunity to do ear moulding, there’s still the option of a nip and tuck, usually done after the age of four years.
But as with any surgery, there are some risks involved such as bleeding, infection and complications from wounds. Children typically face greater surgery risks than adults, Dr Lee says.
Surgery is also costlier than ear moulding – at least a few thousand dollars, depending on the types of deformity and subsidy that the patient is eligible for, Dr Chia explains.
Earwell, on the other hand, will set parents back by about $500 per device and application. A child typically needs more than one device for the entire treatment period, Dr Chia says.
Boosting self-esteem
Still, some parents choose to put their children under the knife for various reasons, among them the fear of bullying and concerns about poor self-esteem. In some cases of facial deformities, such as a cleft palate or lip, there may be a medical need and correcting them helps the child function better.
KKH’s Department of Plastic, Reconstructive and Aesthetic Surgery performs about 20 cases of surgery for ear deformities every year. Over at the NUH, about 50 surgeries for ear deformities were carried out in the past two years.
Some studies have shown that people with ear deformities often experience bullying and teasing that may affect their emotional well-being. KKH’s Dr Chia has encountered kids who suffer from anxiety due to their facial or ear deformities. When this happens, the child may be referred for psychology therapy.
Dr Lim Boon Leng, a psychiatrist at Dr BL Lim Centre for Psychological Wellness, says young kids may not be “cognitively sophisticated” enough to truly understand values and concepts such as acceptance.
“The child may find it difficult to make friends, become ostracised for being different and face a high chance of being bullied,” he explains.
Sometimes, parents unwittingly add on to the anxiety and social stigma by over-emphasising the child’s irregular facial feature. For instance, they may talk about the deformity negatively or ask the child if he wants it corrected. They may also look at and touch it excessively, Dr Chia shares.
According to Dr Lim, correcting a genuine facial anomaly can make a huge difference to the child’s emotional wellbeing – he integrates better with peers which, in turn, prevents low self-esteem in the future, as well as other possible psychological issues like depression.
But Dr Lim personally draws the line at fixing “normal variants”, such as ears that are more pointed or protrude more than usual.
He points out: “These are often driven by the current fashion or aesthetic sense that may pass. Who is to say that a more pointed ear will not be considered a beautiful attribute 20 years down the road when the child grows up?”
Even so, there are no easy answers. Dr Lim says parents have to judge for themselves if correcting the child’s facial differences will benefit his well-being in the long run.
One thing’s for sure, though. “If parents themselves are not able to make peace with their child’s differences, their rejection will be the most detrimental psychological damage a child can receive,” he says.
Now 11 months old, Oliver’s posttreatment ears look perfectly “normal”, much to Dawn’s relief. In an ideal world, she agrees that everyone should embrace unique differences among individuals. But the reality of human interaction is often way more complex.
“Kids, being kids, may not understand this,” she says. “Oliver is my son, and if I can control the situation now (with treatment), why not?”