Happy couples’ bliss trick

Workaholics, listen up! Some of the most content duos are those who are super-busy and rack up insane hours, according to a survey of 285 couples in the journal Human Relations.

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Workaholics, listen up! Some of the most content duos are those who are super-busy and rack up insane hours, according to a survey of 285 couples in the journal Human Relations.

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In fact, researchers say, crazed couples may be better off , because they really know how to maximise their limited together time. One way to get more out of date night: “Instead of making reservations, cook a nice dinner at home,” suggests US-based relationship expert Wendy Walsh. “Working on something together reminds you of the value of your relationship, which helps strengthen your bond.”

BLUFF LOVE 
It looks like honesty isn’t always the best policy, according to a study at Aalto University in Finland. Scientists there developed a computer model that showed strategic white lies are key to forming new relationships and reinforcing existing ones. “Beneficial fibs are ones meant to protect your partner,” explains Rachel Sussman, a relationship therapist in New York City. Here’s when to be fake for your loved one’s sake.

APPEARANCE
“No, I haven’t noticed.” If he’s asking, the guy already knows that his hairline is receding or that he should start lifting more weights. No need to bum him out further.

FINANCES
“I got it on sale.” He’ll enjoy the 800-thread-count sheets more if you spare him the sticker shock.

FAMILY/FRIENDS
“Dinner at your mum’s sounds great.” If you know that meals with the in-laws is a fact of life, just be nice about it. And fully expect him to do the same.

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