I get upset pretty easily. Does that make me an angry person?

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Maybe. Do you notice your stress rising in an uncomfortable way during interpersonal situations too? Are your friends and family voicing concerns? Anger’s a completely valid human emotion. But it can become a problem when it affects your health or the well-being of the people around you. People with chronic anger have an active adrenal system, leading to increased risk for pulmonary issues. So notice your anger. Then pause and breathe. Try “box breathing”: Slowly inhale, holding your breath, then exhale. When your anger is under your control, you can communicate your needs rather than Incredible Hulking through life. 

My wife thinks my breakfast is weird, and my kids make fun of me. Oatmeal, low-sugar whey protein powder, beet powder, baobab powder, matcha powder, maca powder, psyllium husks, cinnamon, ginger, nutmeg, turmeric powder, frozen wild blueberries, and almond butter. Is it strange? — Jeff

It’s great for you! The variety of nutrient-dense ingredients packs in solid nutrition, fibre, and many antioxidants. It’s got a balance of carbs and protein, too. If you were to make an addition, toss in some hemp seeds for healthy fats. For those who don’t have the time to prepare this mighty feast, you can get by with just oatmeal, higher protein milk, hemp seeds, and blueberries. Not quite as many bells and whistles but full of awesomeness.

As for your own concoction, Jeff, your wife and kids can laugh at you all day long.

Is there a smooth way to un-ghost someone on a dating app? — Peter 

Smooth? Probably not, but if you really want to rekindle things, try entering the land of the living on a different platform (like text or email). It makes things less awkward if you start a new thread that doesn’t show you’ve been MIA. Offer up an honest excuse, if it’s reasonable, but you have to hope your kick-ass initial impression was good enough to overshadow your rudeness.

We just started dating. Now we’ll be apart for three weeks. How do I keep up the momentum without overwhelming her? — Chris

If you just started dating, I wouldn’t worry about the momentum too much. Those early-stage butterflies are exciting for everyone. Yes to a few fun selfies. No to nightly check-in calls. Yes to lighthearted texts. No to emotional drunk dials. And yes to maybe sharing a few memes she’d find funny. But no to having the restaurant send over a bottle of wine at her work dinner. You want to convey “thinking of you,” not “thinking only of you.” 

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Your fault? No. The fault of the sex you had? Probably. A urinary tract infection is when bacteria (from your own body or someone else’s) gets into your urethra. Docs have even labelled UTIs “honey-moon cystitis” because the main causes include frequent sex – particularly very lubricated sex. For a woman to prevent them, she should pee before and after sex. Be a mensch and remind her not to fall asleep without hitting the loo.