How do you tell if you’re his fallback girl? Clara How raises the red flags, with help from a few guys.
1 He texts you mostly during working hours
It’s easy to send texts during oﬃce hours, when he’s alone and not accountable to anyone. But if you notice that the text messages slow down after 6pm, that’s a red flag. It’s likely he’s spending time with someone else.
2 He doesn’t like making plans ahead of time
Is he a fan of spur-of-the-moment dates? If he’s reluctant to commit to watching that play which is opening in a month’s time, it raises the question of who else he’s juggling his schedule around for.
3 He doesn’t tag you in his photos of your time together
You had a romantic brunch date, he took a flat lay of the meal and posted it on Instagram. But guess what? You weren’t tagged in it. That begs the question: If he felt it was a special time to remember, why didn’t he tag you in the photo?
4 He makes minimal eﬀort
There are only so many times you can settle for just dinner and a movie, especially when everything’s supposed to be fresh and exciting in the early stages. If he’s not making the eﬀort to plan anything special, it’s an indication he’s not that invested in the relationship.