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There’s a guy at work who flirts with me, and in front of our colleagues, too! He’s cute, but how do I tell if he’s really interested in me, and should I try to take things further?

Uh... you can tell he’s interested because he’s a guy at work who flirts with you – and in front of your colleagues, too! Sure, if you like him, and presuming that you don’t work in close proximity, let him know you’re interested. If you’re unsure how, put yourself in a position to let him make a move – engineer reasons to be alone with him at work or communicate with just him for projects. If he’s interested, he’ll take the initiative.

My new boyfriend has more female friends than male ones. Is this a concern, or is he just more of a ladies’ man?

If someone has more friends of the opposite sex, it can be an issue. Usually you see this with pretty women, who don’t like other women and prefer hanging out with guys, because they will fawn over them. Maybe this is what’s happened with your boyfriend, but with the gender roles reversed? Perhaps he finds his personality works better on women than men? It’s understandable to think it’s odd, but not necessarily something to be overly concerned with. If he wanted to be with any of his girl friends, he would be by now.

My husband’s sex drive has skyrocketed recently. He wants to get it on every night, but how do I explain it’s too much for me without hurting his feelings?

Every night? It sounds like your man has discovered the fountain of youth – please ask him to share details! Seriously, though, when two people’s sex drives differ, it can lead to friction; but if you keep communicating, this is easily solved. Essentially, tell him you love him and love having sex with him, but performing every night is too much for you. It’s important not to make it sound like you don’t want him; explain that you want him and quality sex (which you can’t maintain when it’s continuous). Compliment his moves, manhood and sexual prowess for extra reassurance.

My husband and I share a bank account and he restricts my spending, even though I earn more than he does. How do I stop him from doing this without making it sound accusatory?

Ever heard the song that goes “It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to”? Replace party with money and cry with buy, and you’ll have a good representation of where you are. It’s your money. Buy what you want – within reason, of course. I’m assuming you’re not a shopaholic and that your husband isn’t really the voice of sanity in a flurry of luxury-bag purchases and cosmetics crushes? If his monitoring is too controlling and makes you feel uncomfortable, talk to him about coming up with a compromise (for example, you get to splurge every three months, not all the time).

Have more questions about men and their romantically obtuse ways? E-mail Jason at magherworld@sph.com.sg, follow him on Twitter (@bigsmilenoteeth) and like his Facebook page at www.facebook.com/bigsmilenoteeth.