ASK JAY

Got a relationship problem? JASON GODFREY, our man about town, is here to help.

I’m a 46-year-old recent divorcee. I don’t want a serious relationship but am curious to know what it would be like to be with a younger man. Do you have advice on how to approach one?

So you’re looking to go the cougar route? Good for you! Too often, we see older men with girls who could be their daughters but definitely aren’t (or at least, we hope they aren’t, judging from their interactions). We rarely see the reverse. Really, approaching young guys is the same as approaching old guys, but remember, you’re the wiser, more sophisticated one in this scenario. Maintain that image as you flirt and laugh reservedly at their jokes.

I’m infatuated with a man from South Korea. The problem is, his English is terrible. When I asked “Do you think I’m hot?”, he thought I was referring to the temperature – it killed the mood. How can I avoid such lost-intranslation moments?

As someone who has dated his fair share of women who don’t understand what I’m saying, I suggest: Don’t shy away from those moments! Embrace them. Him thinking your temperature is high – I mean, that’s just gold. Have a laugh and enjoy the moment with him. Just don’t make him feel like he has crappy language skills – let him think you find his little mistakes cute and charming.

I admit I edit the photos on my online dating account to make my skin fairer and my eyes larger. Lately, I have been chatting with a guy on the website. He wants to meet but he mentioned that he was attracted to me because I resemble a Taiwanese celebrity (I don’t). Should I confess before he gets disappointed?

Just how much have you edited your photos? Using filters and flattering angles is fair play, but making your eyes wider? That’s misrepresentation! And now, it looks like it’s time for you to come clean. You probably should mention that you edited your photos a little, just to prepare him, but ultimately be prepared for a potential fallout. Next time, just be yourself

My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship. We’ve had lots of arguments and I was considering ending things. Now, he suddenly says he wants to move to the US (where I am) to “make things work”. If I let him do this, I’ll feel huge pressure to stay with him. What should I do?

The question you have to ask is, were you unsatisfjed because the relationship was a long-distance one? That can create a lot of emotional strain. If that was the only reason for your problems, give things another shot. But if you genuinely think that you’re not right for each other, break it off before he makes the big move. Don’t let the relationship just fizzle on until it fizzles out completely.

Have more questions about men and their romantically obtuse ways? E-mail Jason at magherworld@sph.com.sg, follow him on Twitter (@bigsmilenoteeth) and like his Facebook page at www.facebook.com/bigsmilenoteeth.