In which we ask three men to get candid on a very hot topic.
Meet this month’s guy panel:
From left to right:
Justin Vanderstraaten, 25.
Clinton Zheng, 28.
Gareth Fernandez, 26.
“Personally, if she displays “motherly” instincts towards others, especially towards children, then I’ll find her particularly attractive.”
There are two things I personally look for in a girl: whether she can be my soulmate and my sparring partner. To fulfil the latter, she has to possess strong self-esteem and be confident in the way she carries herself. When she’s confident in her self-identity, and not in terms of how the world or how others define her, it’s extremely alluring as she comes across as someone I can continually learn and be inspired from. When a girl exudes that kind of confidence, even a perceived physical “flaw” in her looks can be attractive and, believe me, can really grow on you.
As for the soulmate part, I’ll have to see her not just as my life-long companion but also the future mother of my children. So, personally, if she displays “motherly” instincts towards others, especially towards children, then I’ll find her particularly attractive.” CLINTON.
“As I’m painfully aware of every single flaw in my own appearance, I don’t expect supermodel features...”
Appearance. Let’s be honest here – have you ever fallen in love with someone’s personality at first sight? I’ll admit it unashamedly: I go for looks. As I’m painfully aware of every single flaw in my own appearance, I don’t expect supermodel features, but a bit of effort goes a long way.
Next is confidence and intelligence. I need to be challenged, engaged, and intrigued. I’m rather chatty and extroverted, so good conversationalists who carry themselves well and display a degree of intellect are a huge turn on. Oh, and yes, this ranks higher than appearance.
Lastly, I’m a geek. A huge one. I love them all, from Star Wars to Game of Thrones to Westworld to Harry Potter, and I instantly gravitate towards anyone with similar leanings. At the risk of feeding the stereotype, I also enjoy playing video games, and hold the elusive Gamer Girl in high esteem. A gamer girlfriend is the dream. As the saying goes, if a guy teaches you to play his favourite video game, you’re The One. Or he needs a healer.” GARETH.
“I honestly couldn’t care less about how nicely her brows are shaped, her stretch marks or the interlocking Cs on the 2.55 she may tote.”
I personally don’t subscribe to the evolutionary theory of attraction, and am not particularly drawn to huge mammaries and wide-set hips. Or, for that matter, legs that go on for days. Nah, they don’t get my motor running. The simple truth is that looks don’t matter much to me. The one attribute I look out for and that makes a lady stand out is a nice, genuine smile. And, if I’m lucky enough, a hearty laugh. That’s it. Forget the pencil skirts, rompers and highwaisted shorts. A beautiful flash of those pearly whites in my direction is all she needs to be attractive in my book.
What really attracts me to a lady, though, isn’t something that can be admired as easily as the way she looks. It’s her mind and heart. I’m one for witty banter and the occasional deep conversation, so the way her mind works and how she expresses herself is fascinating to me. Together with how she deals with whatever life throws her way. It’s hard to put into words and I’m pretty sure that my attempted description hasn’t done it justice but, in essence, it’s the little things she does that show me how beautiful and kind her soul is. All the tiny things that make my heart smile.
I guess it’s all about simplicity to me. Hey, I know that I’m no catch either, so I honestly couldn’t care less about how nicely her brows are shaped, her stretch marks or the interlocking Cs on the 2.55 she may tote. All I ask for is a pleasant-looking face to wake up to every morning, and for her to have a wonderful heart. Someone for the long run. Someone with whom the future isn’t a possibility but a destination.” JUSTIN.